Dear Daddy: Unhealed Fathers, Generational Trauma, and the Silence in Black Families
Introduction When people think about abuse, they often imagine bruises, broken bones, or visible injuries. Physical violence leaves evidence that the world can see. Psychological abuse, however, often leaves no visible scars. In many families, particularly in West African and Caribbean homes where respect for elders and parental authority is strongly emphasized, harmful behaviour can sometimes be overlooked, minimized, or explained away. Children may be taught from a very you
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What Our Communities Need From the Black Church Today
The Black church has long been one of the most important institutions in our communities. It has shaped faith, culture, and family life for generations. Because of this influence, it is worth asking an honest question. What do our communities need from the Black church today? Acknowledging Mental Health One important step is acknowledging mental health. Many people carry anxiety, depression, and trauma that are rarely discussed in church spaces. Faith and therapy do not need
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Why Nicki Minaj Triggers Strong Psychological Reactions
As someone who has followed Black media and Hip Hop culture for many years, I remember the early stages of Onika Maraj's career before she became widely known in mainstream entertainment. I watched her beginnings before much of the wider music industry recognized her. At the time, I often told friends that she would rise to the top. Some did not believe me, but today her influence in music and popular culture is undeniable. Nicki Minaj has become such a significant cultural f
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Why Envy Is the Conversation Nigerians Avoid
Moving to the diaspora does not automatically free us from the challenges that exist in Nigeria. Many of the patterns that shape our communities at home travel with us. Culture does not disappear when we cross borders. The ways we were raised and the expectations placed on us often continue to shape our lives abroad. One of the strongest forces within many Nigerian families is comparison. From a young age many of us are taught to measure our lives against our mates, our sibli
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Guest Lecturing at York University
Honoured to guest lecture in Introductory Sociology at York University . My sincere thanks to Dr. Amanda van Beinum for the invitation and for her commitment to cultivating bold, critical thinkers and future sociologists. York University has long understood that Gen Z students are intellectually serious, socially aware, and redefining what scholarship looks like. It was a privilege to engage with amazing students whose questions continue to push sociology forward. Grate
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Not All Siblings Are Rooting For You
Sibling rivalry is often treated like a joke. Something from the Bible, Cain and Abel. Or reality television, the Kardashian sisters arguing over closets. And sometimes we comfort ourselves by imagining siblings are supposed to be like Brandy and Ray J, loyal, protective, and publicly supportive. But not all sibling dynamics look like that. Sometimes the problem begins much earlier in the family system. For example: You open a new restaurant. Suddenly someone is anonymously l
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Behind the Screen: How Therapy Can Help with Porn Recovery
A majority of men aged 18–30 use pornography weekly. If you have ever felt conflicted, stuck, or unsure about your relationship with porn, you are not alone. For many men, porn use begins casually and privately. Over time, it can come to feel less like a choice and more like a habit that is hard to step away from. Therapy offers a space to understand why this happens and to regain a sense of agency, without shame or judgment. Quick Stats 87–97% of adult men have viewed pornog
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