What the Internet Missed About Blake Lively in It Ends With Us
Watching It Ends with Us, I found myself thinking less about the film itself and more about the intense public reaction surrounding Blake Lively. As a psychotherapist and artist, I was struck not only by her performance but by the cruelty directed toward her online during the film’s release. The internet often frames public backlash as righteous accountability, but psychologically, I believe many online “hate trains” are far more complicated than people would like to admit. T
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The Psychology of Reinvention
Sometimes reinvention is not a luxury. Sometimes it is survival. People often speak about reinvention as though it is something glamorous or superficial. We imagine a dramatic makeover, a new wardrobe, expensive cosmetic procedures, or a carefully curated social media transformation. But psychologically, reinvention is often much deeper than that. It can emerge after trauma, heartbreak, isolation, burnout, grief, the ending of a relationship, the termination of a job, or simp
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Why Black Men Stay Silent About Pain
“Many Black men are not emotionless. They are emotionally trained into silence.” One of the biggest misconceptions about Black men is the idea that we feel less. That we are naturally harder, tougher, less emotionally affected, or incapable of vulnerability. I do not believe that is true. I think many Black men feel deeply. The issue is that many of us are socialized to suppress emotions that threaten masculinity while expressing emotions that preserve it. Anger is often perm
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Dr. Cheyenne Bryant, Legitimacy & The Black Therapist
Watching the recent discourse surrounding Dr. Cheyenne made me reflect on the complicated relationship many people now have with legitimacy, trust and healing professions. On one hand, I understand why people care deeply about credentials and safety mechanisms within mental health spaces. People have been harmed by institutions before. Many people distrust medical systems, therapeutic systems and authority itself, sometimes for very legitimate reasons. That distrust can then
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